Porn is just a fantasy, and our fantasies do not dictate our sexual orientations or identities.Īccording to the same study, 55 percent of gay men reported they've chosen to watch straight porn in the past six months, which further proves my theory that the kind of porn you're into doesn't translate perfectly into your personal life.īisexual men, the study didn't forget you, don't panic. Bi guys confessed to watching gay porn at a rate of 96 percent and straight porn at a rate of 88.3 percent. On the other hand, I have many straight female friends who dabble in lesbian porn all the time, and get wildly turned on by watching it. Porn is just a fantasy, and our fantasies do not dictate our sexual orientations or identities.įor instance, I'll confess my own porn preference: I'm a surefire lesbian, and I only watch straight porn. I find lesbian porn hilarious, but there is a realness to straight porn (at least through my tainted, gay eyes) that I can get down and dirty with. It doesn't mean you're gay, or straight, or bi or anything. Contact her at haleyswanson.I'm going to send you home with a very important PSA: It's totally OK to watch any kind of porn. Haley Swanson is an essay and women’s issues writer based in New York.
Porn isn’t just for prepubescent boys and their tube socks it’s also for you, whatever stage of life you’re in, and in whatever combination you’re looking for. It’s hard to throw away your preconceived notions of what is “normal” and “not normal” for your gender identification and sexual preference-but it’s really important to do! Own your porn preferences-especially if you identify as a woman. In other words, women are just straight up (no pun intended) more receptive to various forms of sexual arousal than men.Īt the end of the day, what turns you on is what turns you on.
In a study conducted at Northwestern University and the Center for Addiction and Mental Health, researchers found that straight women experienced arousal from both male and female sexual stimuli (straight men in the study were more aroused by female than male stimuli). Turns out, women tend to have more erotic plasticity. It comes down to a biological construct called “ erotic plasticity,” which describes the ability to easily change your patterns and sources of sexual arousal. “Women's pleasure is more elusive if authentic at all, and so a little bit more reliability or at least presumption of authentic pleasure,” can go a long way, says Skyler. “That authenticity is a big turn on for a lot of people, especially women,” says Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., a therapist and sexologist at the Intimacy Institute in Colorado and resident expert at Adam & Eve. It’s an especially nice change from that all-too-common immediate orgasm women in heterosexual videos often portray. So, if you identify as straight, why the attraction to same-sex porn? For anyone who’s ever watched heterosexual porn, girl-on-girl or even boy-on-boy can be a nice break from the performative aspect of girl-boy action. According to 2018 user data from Porn Hub, “lesbian” was the number one used search term for female-identifying users. Congratulations! An affinity for same-sex porn when you’re straight is more common than you might think-and more importantly, it’s totally normal.
You identity as a straight woman-but enjoy lesbian porn.